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Anonymous asked: why is "hate breeds more hate" a bad thing to say?
Oh so many reasons.
1) it equates the anger of the oppressed to the hate of their oppressors.
2) it blames oppressed groups for their oppression. Bigotry doesn’t exist because people hate bigots. It exists because oppressed people oppose it. It exists because of bigots and because of privileged folks being complicit or tacitly condoning systems of oppression.
3) it’s fundamentally untrue. Hatred of oppression doesn’t lead to more hatred; it leads to progress.
4) it is used to attack any attempt by oppressed people to obtain liberation. Point out that something or someone is repulsively racist and all of a sudden you’re “breeding more hate”.
It’s a fundamental misrepresentation of reality that blames victims and excuses fucked up behavior.
cis ppl can have horns and swirls and spikes n shit surgically implanted under their skin any time they want if theyre rich enough but a trans woman wants boobs she has to wait at least 1-2 years for doctors to be convinced that she REALLY wants them
A cis woman who doesn’t have boobs or wants bigger ones can go and buy them any time if she has the money. A cis man with low testosterone can have T prescribed for him on the first doctor’s visit. Cis women take estrogen and progesterone routinely, for various reasons. A cis man with gynecomastia (breast growth) can have top surgery just because.
What I mean is it’s not just piercings and horns: Cis people can have actual gender-related medical interventions done any time, and they do have them, and it’s perfectly normal. But when trans people want the same interventions, often to literally save our lives, we have to wait years and jump through countless hoops to convince doctors that we really need it. The same things that cis people can have just like that.
Except there’s social stigma, or at least some pressure, for men to have “masculine” features and for women to have “feminine” traits. In fact, because of this, a cis man may have breast surgery and testosterone even though he doesn’t really want to, or a cis woman may get breast implants because she works in the porn industry.There is no such pressure for transgender people to acquire a physique matching an invisible state of mind, so the doctors have to make sure YOU really want it. Not to mention recognition of transpeople is rather recent, unlike gender roles, so it’s obviously easier to conform to the latter than to accomodate the former.
Not denying there is prejudice and extreme discrimination against transgenders, but stop comparing oranges and clementines please. Though they may look similar, they certainly aren’t identical.
There’s no pressure for transgender people to conform to their identified gender? Ahahahaha. I suggest you do some reading about trans people’s actual experiences. There is EXTREME pressure for especially trans women to be feminine, and just the right amount of feminine, no more and no less.
Right, so of course there is the option that, in order not to face pressure to conform to their real gender, the trans person never tells anyone about their identity and leads a false life, risking mental illness and even suicide. And also they would of course face pressure to conform to a gender that’s not their own. But all that is nothing compared to the pressure that cis women face to get silicone breasts…
I am not trying to downplay misogyny and body-policing. They’re very real and serious. But honestly, trans women face way MORE misogyny and body-policing than cis women, and arguably trans men face more body-policing than cis men.
Soooo anyway, if your assumptions are true and 1) there is extreme pressure for, say, some cis women to get silicone breasts (which is undoubtedly true in many cases) and 2) there is no pressure for trans women to get silicone breasts (which is not true), then shouldn’t doctors be most closely examinining CIS women who want silicone breasts, because they could have come up with the notion not because they personally want it but because of societal pressure? Whereas the trans person came to the conclusion independent of societal opinions (not that anyone can make any decision independent of the society they exist in, but let’s leave that alone for a moment), so probably that is what they really want. I honestly don’t understand what you’re trying to say.
OR we could just trust that given enough information and the option to talk to professionals, people know what the fuck they need to do with their own bodies in a given situation.
Also, the gender roles, and indeed the concept that we have of gender in general, that are in effect in our society today are, in fact, very recent. For example, women have been expected to have big breasts well under a hundred years now. Unlike the recognition of trans people; systems where people go from one social gender to another, don’t live as their assigned gender, or belong to a gender that is not man or woman, have existed in numerous cultures since centuries and even millennia ago.
Also, please don’t say “transgenders” or “transpeople”. “Trans” and “transgender” are not nouns, and many transgender people take issue with their use as such. We’re people who are also trans(gender), thus trans people or transgender people.